We are in church, in the Body but we should understand that not every member of the Church is saved. Many of us are still struggling with the lusts of the flesh and sensual desires. Even the married find themselves attracted to younger members of the opposite sex. It’s an individual duty to make sure you are not lured into traps. Let’s avoid compromising situations, set boundaries in our interactions with the opposite sex and be sober, vigilant, immovable, steadfast.
The availability of social media has greatly contributed to the rate of sexual immortality among us and it will take sober heads for the Church to stay pure in this generation. Let the Church Be the Church!
There is a lot happening today that when when we seem to think we know we end up falling flat face on the ground. And the greatest cause is
Sexual immorality is on the increase all over the world. Adultery is fast becoming the norm and men of God are also joining the club. Married women are not left out, many are having secret lovers and emotional affairs are becoming the order of the day.
The rate at which immorality is increasing is alarming! It is spreading fast into every nook and cranny and children are also being initiated into the club. ……. Staying sexually pure these days is becoming a Herculean task.
One of the reasons people fall flat into illicit sex is over confidence. The stupid belief that you can be free around the opposite sex and nothing would happen!
A lot will happen! One of the ways you can stay sexually pure whether married or single these end time is to set strict boundaries. If you are too careless around the opposite sex, you will fall flat on your face! That is the truth. The earlier you believe this and work on it, the better. You can’t be careless around the opposite sex and hope to stay sexually pur. Set boundaries!
There are some people who can’t be your friends, raise the standard. Any body can call you names, that’s their headache, you have your destiny to protect. As a rule, I don’t make friends with liars, gossips and jealous women. They make life so complicated. If you believe in illicit sex, we can’t be friends, period!
Monitor your chats. Don’t allow anybody send you flirty messages, no matter how innocent it sounds, warn them and if they refuse to stop, block them!
Limit the hugs and touches. I don’t hug men as a rule. If I must hug, my husband must be around and you should hug both of us. If your hugging anointing is only for women, I want none of it.
Don’t allow anybody call you pet names (except your close family members and same sex friends). It doesn’t make any sense. Pet names turn the opposite on, if you don’t know that, know it right now.
Be sensitive to attractions. Don’t be naive around the opposite sex, know when a man/ woman is sexually attracted to you and move back from that person. If they focus too much on your physique and body, they are sexually attracted to you, move back.
Know when you are sexually attracted to someone and move back. It’s perfectly normal to have chemistry for someone. Marrying the greatest man on earth or the most beautiful, virtuous woman in the universe will not automatically stop you from being attracted to someone else. Know when the thought of another man/ woman gets you excited and move back. Don’t jump at new relationships. Give it time. Study the person, know what they stand for, see if your core values are compatible, if not, move back!
Leadership attracts all kinds of people. If you are a leader or you are gifted, talented or intelligent, the opposite sex will show more interest in you, be careful whom you allow to get close to you. Accepts gifts with care. Men don’t joke with their time and money. If he spends so much time and money on you especially when you do not ask, he may one day ask for sex. Stop begging men for money. Work with your two hands and raise your standard. Men will respect and honour you for it.
Work on your marriage. Fix the problem as soon as possible or else you get attracted to someone who gives you what you lack in your marriage, adultery is the result.
Be prayerful, be watchful. Jesus says “watch and pray that ye may not fall into temptation…”
Don’t stay with the opposite sex in a dark or lonely room. Don’t counsel the opposite sex on a bed in a lonely room.
Avoid provocative dresses and pictures. Let your spouse advice you on what is okay for you.
Mind the pictures you post on the social media, if it is getting unnecessary opposite sex attention, delete it. Don’t visit the opposite sex alone, it doesn’t make sense.
These and more are the things you need to do to stay sexually pure in this 21st century.
People may laugh at you, it doesn’t matter. They may call you a neurotic, psychotic, fanatic, over sensitive or paranoid, don’t give a damn! Your destiny is too precious to waste on the altar of sin. Avoid the opposite sex who visits you alone or when you are alone. Be careful of friendship that is not defined.
Avoid unnecessary communications with the opposite sex especially at odd hours, late nights or early hours of the day. Avoid friends who make fun of holiness and make friends with people who appreciate purity and holiness. You will not fall in Jesus name.
God bless you!!!!