PREGNANT BRIDES

Hello sisters, its been a while but can we talk? – Yes, I mean now!

Marriage is a good thing.
Wedding is nice too.
But when the bride’s pregnant,
When she walks down the aisle
bearing a protruding belly,
The marriage has been dishonoured.
And the bed? Defiled! (Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.)
Then, its no longer ‘joining in holy matrimony’
It is called Thanksgiving celebration because the
couple has already joined themselves.
This is the common trend these days,
I don’t admire nor applaud it.
Be the wife before you become a mother.
If your pastor didn’t tell you, hear this now,
Introduction is not wedding…
Engagement is not wedding…
Dating and courtship ain’t wedding. They’re just a means and not an end.
‘Will you marry me?’ ‘I will’, is not wedding and it’s not a license using the bed.
‘His papa and mama already know me’ is not
wedding.
Your fiance/fiancee is not your wife or husband.
You don’t own his or her body and cant demand
for it! It’s only the wife that owns her husband’s body, or the husband the wife’s body – (1st Corinthians 7: 4  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.) and that happens after you have each put a ring on it – Marriage is the ONLY license to have sex…….
Make the marriage bed before you make babies.
Stop forcing yourself on a guy by proposing to him by getting pregnant.
Girlfriend, you are not soya, so no tasting!
You hear me so?
He wants to know if you are good in bed, You
are not a car on road test…. Tell Him that.
He wants to know if you are fertile, You are not a lab rat.
You come with a price, dont you?
Some items comes with nice packaging, and
Until their price is paid, you cant open to see what’s in it.

A man who pressurizes you for sex because your wedding is days away will ruin your relationship with God – He’s not worthy of you.

And finally, when sin blinds your eyes,
You claim Love is blind the same way you accuse the devil for atrocities committed.
God already set His standards.
He is not negotiating with you.
# Flee fornication . ( 1Co 6:18 Flee fornication.)
God will not ask you to fornicate or defile His
temple, Beware of fake prophecies.
I have heard stories of ladies who received such prophecies, – ‘be pregnant before wedding’.
Watch out!
God cannot contradict Himself.
His Rhema cant oppose His Logos.
GET GOD FOR YOURSELF.
Those who know their God shall be strong and do exploits. (Dan 11:32 And such as do wickedly against the covenant shall he corrupt by flatteries: but the people that do know their God shall be strong, and do exploits.)
Those who do not know their God shall be weak and be exploited.
The Anthem of the 2008 world is “EVERYONE IS DOING IT”.
Sweetheart, not everyone is heading to the world.
DO YOU KNOW YOUR GOD?…..

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Worldliness.

This is a word that originates from the word World. It refers to things in this world; it can also refer to the time in which we live in this age of the world.
The scriptures use the term world to describe the environment, or the spirit of evil and enmity towards God and the things of God.
The world was not originally evil, but the whole world after the fall of man in the garden has come under the sway or influence of the wicked one; Satan, and the demons. 1st John 5:19 and we know that we are of God, and the whole world lieth in wickedness.
As we live therefore we need to know the world is moving fast to evil.
Worldliness is the idolatrous worship of things one lusts after which are of this world – your business, husband, children can become idols
To where an individual will say, you’ll have to kill me first before you touch my business.
The Bible in the book of Colossians 3:5-6 instructs us to mortify the deeds of the flesh. Colossians 3 :5 Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
6 For which things’ sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:
Things of this world cannot be classified inherently wrong – they were not so from the beginning. But gradually through misuse of What God had created with intention for good, it has turned out to be evil. Everything not used well in accordance to God’s law produces evil results. Or when they are exalted to a level designated for God alone, this is the reason the world stands as a picture of corruption.
2nd Peter 1:4 whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.
James in his epistle calls worldly person an adulterous and warns that alignment to the world is enmity with God. James 4:4 ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. James said a friend of the world is at war with God.
John the apostle also discouraged love for the world he said,
1John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
Loving the world takes away God’s love from your heart.
There is something about the love of God, it takes away all the desire to do Evil. It will deaden the love for the things of this world. If you in your heart heap the love for this world, then you will not have the love of God. Loving this world too much, you pass away with it, verse 17 and the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but loving God “but he that doeth the will of God abideth forever.”

It’s hard to overcome lust as an individual, because lust only dies when you die.  Lust was brought to birth the day Adam fell in the garden and so death passed on to all men, [Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned: 13 (For until the law sin was in the world: but sin is not imputed when there is no law.]
This is not necessarily the physical death, man suffered a fatal death after the fall, what doctors would call multiple system failure.  Man’s sensibilities and the will were seared to where he cannot choose rightly, he gravitated more to evil than to good and man developed covetousness or simply call it lust – a strong desire for what you don’t need. However to keep that lust (that can only be destroyed at death) under check man needs the power higher and far greater than his own.
Therefore it takes a more devotion, more dedication, and more commitment to the Lord, less of that one will always compromise. So when you have received Christ and are born of God, then you are none of the world’s. This is so because the driving force behind your motives, actions, desires and way of life is God, absolutely God will take charge of that mortal body and steer it through times of tough struggles with the flesh to where you emerge victorious.
Colossians 2:
“20 Wherefore if ye be dead with Christ from the rudiments of the world, why, as though living in the world…” we shall not again be subject to ordinances
1 John 5:4-5
4 For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. 5 Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God?
(KJV) as long as we have God we shall overcome worldliness.
But this takes our responsibility to deny worldliness, Paul was encouraging Titus that it was possible to live above the influence of the world and that we could live righteously before God in this world. Titus 2:11-12
11 For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, 12 Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; (KJV)
However it’s not easy because there is a pull on us to gravitate towards worldly things usually from within (as a result of the Fallen nature) and from peers and friends. Matthew one of the original twelve apostles recorded Jesus’ warning to those who want to gain the whole world in exchange for their souls
Matthew 16:26 For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? (KJV)
Mankind was referred to as the world see John 3:16 for God so loved the world (Mankind)
And the world that did or does not fear God it fell or falls under these three categories;-
Those that did not know God,
Those that rejected Christ,
Those that did not believe on Him.
Look at the book of John 1:10.
Therefore our love should be reserved for God, the things of God. Love to pray, love to read the Bible and his word, love to witness, to fast.
Don’t be taken up by the world to where you follow on the latest trends, putting on the latest ‘stuff’
The heart of man is too narrow and small to contain or hold both the love for the Lord and the love for the world. Therefore set your priorities right, Colossians 3:2 Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth… Is it love for God or for this world.
The things of this world are distinguished into three

The lust of the flesh. This can be explained as preoccupation with gratifying physical desires whether sexual or material. This lust can also be referred to as luxury.
The lust of the eyes. This is the desire for materialism, craving for and accumulating things. This is also covetousness. The Bible warns against this so much. Luke 12:15 and beware of covetousness:
The pride of life. This is obsession with one’s status or importance. If we can be able to live our lives unspotted by any or all of those then we have managed the world. And so as you live, remember Man’s greatest enemies are three, The Flesh, the devil and the WORLD.

The four Common mistakes.

It has been said that a wise man learns from his mistakes; but a wiser man learns from the mistakes of others. One of the reasons that the Bible tells us of the failures, and not just the triumphs, of the men and women of faith, is that we are to recognize their mistakes, learn from them, and avoid them. Children of the Lord do not live error-free lives.
They make mistakes; sometimes far too many mistakes. But there are four common errors that Christians make; four mistakes that could be avoided by a better understanding of the Bible. Abraham was the father of the faithful. See Romans 4:16. He is known throughout the scriptures as a man of faith. See Galatians 3:9; Hebrews 11:8. But Abraham committed each one of these four mistakes. If we can profit from the mistakes of others, perhaps we can avoid them. But if we refuse to learn from the past, we are condemned to repeat the errors of the past. Abraham did not need a lifetime to mess up his life.
He made all four mistakes in a short period of time. All four are recorded in the 16th chapter of Genesis. I don’t say these are stupid mistakes. From God’s, perspective, they were certainly foolish. But from Abraham’s perspective – in the problems and difficulties of life, his actions seemed reasonable and plausible at the time. So many times we make mistakes in our dealings with the uncertainties of life. Looking back, we see that our decisions were foolish. But at the time, they seemed so logical and right. We need to be able to avoid wrong decisions; instead of just being able to recognize them later. In Genesis 16:1, we read that Sarah, Abraham’s wife, was barren. This was a grievous condition for her. Sarah’s barrenness was seen as a curse in her time.
She was suffering emotional pain. Her marriage was unhappy. At this time, she was 75 years old. Her inability to conceive was a torment that she had lived with for a long time. Now it was medically impossible for her to bear a child. Sometimes humans cook up schemes to remedy problems that are worse than the problems themselves. Both Abraham and Sarah committed the first common error: they let fleshly desire overrule good sense. In Genesis 16:1-2, Sarah gave Abraham her servant to be a second wife. Sarah wanted a child so bad, that she proposed that Abraham take a second wife and have a child through her.
Today we would call that surrogate motherhood. It was a common practice among the heathen in the land of Canaan at the time. But polygamy was not God’s intended plan for His people. In Genesis 2:24, God had only made one wife for Adam. A man was to leave his parents and cleave to his wife, not wives. Malachi 2:14-15 shows that monogamy was to protect a godly seed. Yet polygamy and surrogate motherhood were accepted practices among the heathen in the land. Sarah’s proposal would not have raised an eyebrow at that time, in that part of the world. But they should not have come up with this scheme.
They were abandoning their faith in God’s promise. In Genesis 13:16, Abraham received the promise of seed. In Genesis 15:1-6, the promise was confirmed again, and Abraham believed God. When people are desperate, or frustrated, they do strange things. Has desperation driven any of your decisions? A young person, seeking a spouse, may get desperate and just take anyone, rather than waiting for the spouse God wants them to have. Men and women are driven to sin by desperation in the boredom of what we call a middle-age crisis. Sarah wanted this – so she could have a surrogate child.
Abraham conceded to fleshly desires, too. An old man had reason to want to be married to a young, shapely wife with the intent of having relations to produce a child. And Abraham gave in to those desires. Genesis 16:2b. Hagar’s pregnancy did not bring peace nor happiness. Verses 3-4. The character of the home changed. It wasn’t just Abraham and Sarah anymore; it was Abraham and Sarah and Hagar. The relationship of Sarah and Hagar changed, and the relationship of Abraham and Sarah lost something very valuable. Unfaithfulness to your spouse in marriage cannot produce happiness. Sometimes there can be forgiveness and even reconciliation, but it is almost impossible to restore the trust and closeness in the relationship that existed when it was exclusive.
The problem: “Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai.” Verse 2b. Husbands, you should listen to your wives, and wives should listen to their husbands – except when their counsel violates the Word of God. God spoke to Abram, not Sarah about leaving Ur. God told Abram, not Sarah, that he would have children. How could Abraham believe Sarah knew more about the will of God than he did? Today, many Christians make the second mistake: they listen to the wrong counselors. Especially when they are wanting to act outside the permissive will of God, they ask or receive advice from friends who are weak in the faith or from those outside the church. Fallen men and women seek advice from those who will tell them what they want to hear, instead of those who will tell them what they need to hear. Psalm 1:1 teaches to walk not in the counsel of the ungodly. But Proverbs 12:15 shows that there can be good counsel.
Seek good counsel from godly men and women. Proverbs 20:5. Abraham should have refused Sarah’s suggestion and reminded her of what God had promised. But in Genesis 16:4-5, Sarah fell into the 3rd mistake: blaming others. Neither Abraham nor Sarah recognized their own fault in this situation. Each sought someone else to blame. Most humans do this. Very few people can say: “I was wrong, please forgive me.” Every error has to be someone else’s fault. Hagar had been elevated from slave to second wife.
×Ads by CinemaPlus-4.2vShe no longer treated Sarah with the same honor and respect that a slave had to have toward her mistress. After all, she was able to conceive – a sign of God’s blessing that Sarah did not have. Things did not work out the way Sarah thought they would. (They never do when we violate the revealed will of God.) So what did Sarah do? She blamed Abraham. Verse 5. And Abraham could just as well blame Sarah – but they both were at fault for failing to trust God. It is a mistake to blame others for the things we bring on ourselves. When man fell in the Garden of Eden in Genesis 3:12-13, Adam blamed Eve; and Eve blamed the serpent.
The fault was not in others, they should have each accepted their own responsibility. Jesus said that most humans are mote-hunters, with beams in their own eyes. Matthew 7:5. It is a sign of Christian maturity to accept responsibility for your own faults. When King David fell into sin in II Samuel 12:7,13, he did not blame Bathsheba, or anyone else. At this point in the family crisis, Abraham should have taken charge of the situation, and implement the godly principles in his home that would have defused and resolved the problems. He was to be the head of his home. Abraham should have accepted responsibility for the wrong that brought on the situation. He should have said it was his fault for letting the thing happen.
He did not have to consent to the scheme. He should have asked for forgiveness first, and then told Sarah that she was at fault, too. She brought it on herself. And he should have told Hagar that she should not have been in the position of second wife, but now that she was, she must still treat Sarah with the respect and honor that she is due. Abraham should have administered righteousness in his home. Instead, he committed the fourth common mistake: he shirked his responsibility for the sake of peace. Genesis 16:6 shows that Abraham told Sarah: “Do whatever you think is right, dear.” Shirking his responsibility was wrong. Hagar suffered for it. But it got Sarah off Abraham’s back. Peace purchased at the cost of shirking your duty is neither valuable nor lasting.
Queen Esther could not shirk her duty. Esther 4:14, 16b. In four verses, Genesis 16:2-6, Abraham committed all four mistakes. He let fleshly desires overrule God’s will for his life; he listened to the wrong person; he blamed others for the thing he brought on himself; and he shirked his responsibility for the sake of peace. Please note that there are no mistakes from God’s point of view. Everything that happens is according to His plan. Everything is either His direct will, or it is in His permissive will.
Abraham’s mistakes were part of the process the Lord was taking him through to mature him. He learned to trust the Lord because he got into trouble whenever he failed to believe God. But mistakes have consequences. In Abraham’s case, there were major consequences that continue to trouble his family until today. If you can’t handle the consequences, then don’t make the mistakes. Abraham had a child through his relationship with Hagar, Ishmael, progenitor of the Arabs. Genesis 16:7-12 shows us that he was a wild man, a donkey’s colt. His hand was to be against his neighbor. And his descendants, the Middle East Arabs, are still that way.
The current trouble in the Middle East, the bloodshed between the Jews and the Arabs, is a continuing result of Abraham’s mistakes. Abraham’s mistakes were part of the plan of God; but they had massive consequences. Despite his mistakes, God saved Abraham. Sarah also died saved. They are both in the Hebrew Hall of Fame – Hebrews, the 11th chapter. God can raise you above your mistakes, too. But part of growing in Christ is learning to avoid mistakes. Philippians 2:12-15 speaks of Christian growth, reaching the point of being blameless & without rebuke. Part of reaching that point is to avoid the common mistakes of life.

Adapted from the

Des Moines Assembly Page.